Boundaries have been a hot topic for some time now. As with any concept that enters the mainstream awareness, I have seen an initially helpful idea get taken in many different directions, often to the extreme. Unfortunately, at the extremes it becomes not quite so helpful.

Learning how to say no gracefully is a valuable skill. And make no mistake, this is a skill that doesn’t always come naturally but we can develop and strengthen.

Some concerns that have bubbled for for me: It’s true, we can say no to whatever we want, but at what cost? Are we losing the capacity to sit with messiness and imperfection? Are we forgetting that intimacy requires emotional labor? For those who feel guilty about setting boundaries, has this become yet another thing to beat ourselves up for?

So, here is Loving Boundaries. This one-hour free community workshop offers the idea that boundaries can serve connection instead of distance. Instead of isolating ourselves with rigid walls, we’ll explore a nuanced approach that can help you connect with others without resentment or burnout. My intention is that this workshop can also help you feel more equipped to navigate the upcoming holiday season.

I hope you’ll join us. Sign up here.

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I have an opening in my caseload for an individual client. Reach out today to see if we’d be a good fit.

Some recent delights:

Spotted from my Uber: 2 people in a laundromat hugging deeply on a Friday at 10pm.
Sharing a moment of awe with a neighbor as we watched a coyote cross the street around sunrise (and also the sunrise itself!)